How to Approach Girls

The most important lesson you can learn when learning how to approach girls is to realize that one day, you’re going to grow old. While you’re reflecting on your life, you’ll remember all those missed opportunities that you should have taken. Every single time you failed to approach a girl, all those missed approaches will haunt you. So make the most of your time on earth while you’re still young and enjoy it.

Take a moment to think about it. When you’re approaching women, what’s the worst thing that a girl can possibly say to you if you ask her on a date? The worse she can say is “no” right? Well you’re wrong! The worse she can say is that she wouldn’t go out with you if were the last man on Earth, that you’re ugly and disgusting and you should never talk to her again.

Assuming she DID say that! Who cares, laugh about it. At least you tried and you’ll have absolutely no regrets. Instead, tell her that she’s way off and move on to another girl.

If you were to follow the law of averages, by asking 100 girls out, 99 might reject you, but at least one will accept.

The Types of Reactions You Will Get

That being said, if you’re a relatively normal guy then there are hundreds of girls that will say yes and accept your approaches. As a man, it’s your duty to talk to women, go out and seize the day. It might sound like standard approaching advice, but it’s the best advice I can give you so you don’t regret not approaching women later on in life.


A Story About Approaching Girls

Here’s a story of an approach I saw one night. I hadn’t really thought about it until I started writing this article, but it was really interesting to see. I was out with a bunch of guys and we had been drinking before we went out. We were teasing one of our friends to go talk to a hot woman, and then all of a sudden, he just got up and went up to a girl and said: “Hey, let’s get together tonight and make something special”.

I never thought that an approach like that had a chance of working, but to everyone’s surprise,  she smiled and seemed quite happy with his approach.  I know it takes a lot of guts to try such a move, but the results were quite surprising. Simply showing up with a very direct approach showed raw honesty, desire and confidence.

A little later on he came back to our table and reported back that she thought he had a little too much to drink to do anything. However, he did have her number and she asked for him to call her when he was sober. She thought his approach was “funny and goofy”. If I wasn’t there, then I wouldn’t have believed it.

Does this work all the time?

Well, in short… no.

We were bar hoping that night and he did try the exact same approach a few more times that night. He got some numbers and there are 2 girls that slapped him in the face, one of them did so REALLY hard. If anything, it was funny to watch, he came back laughing with a big red finger prints on the left cheek.

So near the end of our night, at around 2am, we were on our 3rd bar. Finally, he got a girl’s attention, went up to her and told her: “I really want you tonight”. That was all it took. You could tell she was intrigued. She asked: “Is this how you pick up women?” He looked at her and simply said: “Yes” and paused. Then she laughed….

They talked for a while, and that night they stumbled back to her apartment.

That’s a night I’ll never forget, because I saw the possibilities. I learned that there are no limits, only self imposed ones. Approaching women is really all in your head and there’s no real wrong way to do it. Even if you go in with the worse approach possible, if you’re genuine and honest about your intentions, then you’ll eventually succeed.

What To Get From This Approach

Whatever you take from this story, as long as you are approaching women, then you stand a chance. Like Wayne Gretzky one said, “You miss all the shots you don’t take”. So the right way to approach girls is to simply walk up to them and say something. Whatever you can work, as long as you say something.

If you want more scripted ways of opening and more information on how to approach girls, then make sure to look up openers and routines.

8 Responses

March 17, 2009

Nice! I had a friend that tried that same thing… it’s freaky when it works.

March 17, 2009

No regrets! Go out and approach as many women as possible. That’s good advice

May 14, 2009

Yea It happened to me also….At first she doesnt respond me….But when leavin she said sorry for not responding me and said bye

January 19, 2010

i’ll start doing that to see what happens, because i’m a litle shy.

January 20, 2010

yea man it good..

March 19, 2010

I definitely agree with the Law of Averages, however, I feel the chances of having the girl say yes are little more than 1 out of 100. Of course, a few factors come into play (which I won’t get into right now).

That being said…more guys have just got to face the music, realize that there is always going to be a slight fear of approaching women, and JUST DO IT! Approaching gets easier and easier. I promise you.

April 9, 2010

It’s cool and am going to try it even if i get slapped in the process.

November 19, 2010

those tips do work in most fo times, dont feel dicourage whenever you see them.