When To Call A Girl After A Second Date & How Timing Is Important

There is a lot of information out there about how to go by contacting a girl after a second date and often the advice is just bogus. The truth is there is no real set rules, it simply depends on the girl, how you connect, the chemistry you had on the first and second date and the overall vibe you get off her (and she gets off you).

Of course there are general rules you want to follow, such as not seeming too needy, as women really hate that. However, also playing hard to get may portray this hard bad boy image that some girls like, but honestly, if you take it too far, she might simply think you are not interest and move on… girl lost!

So if we think about it, there really is an intermediate point, a balance to consider for deciding when to call after a second date and doing it right is not so difficult really.

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My advice is to consider the following points. We may be men after all, but we too have brains and are able to recognise certain signs and signals, we just need to learn to be attuned to them and trust our original instincts about how she may see us.

  • – Did she engage in topics you brought up that interest you?
  • – Was she engaging your eyes when communicating?
  • – Did she smile, did the smile look genuine?
  • – Was her body / torso facing forward? Sitting to the side is a sign she may not be comfortable.

The list can go on, but honestly, unless we are blind or self-centred, we know when a date went well or not… and if you are not too sure, send her a short concise text letting her know you had a good time. If she replies, then you got a good change of seeing her again.

3 Successful Tactics Guys Do On Tinder

Be Flirtatious But Clean

It is no secret that women do use Tinder for getting a hookup or two, but that does not mean they want to be solicited for sex in an opening message conversation.

By all means, be playful, tease a little, but resist the direct dirty talk… at least for the time being.

Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with dropping a few dirty jokes, as long as she finds it funny, then you are good to go.

Feeling happy is an emotion that all people love experiencing and if you are the person that is producing this warm and fuzzy feeling, then she is more than likely going to continue the conversation which in turn increases the chances of going on a date. That is why being funny can help immensely which is also why I have included this great Tinder pickup lines list to give an idea of what you can practice saying in advance and make it sound like your flirting skills are coming right off the cuff.

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Stupid & dirty jokes can work… sometimes!

Demonstrate Standards, Not Just List Your Best Traits

Look, the biggest mistake you are most likely making is make a list of your best traits in your About Me section. Essentially all you are doing is trying to sell yourself, very much like the most common mistakes people make during interviews.

Instead demonstrate that you have standards and that you do not feel it is a question of trying to impress all the girls there. Yes you want to impress, but you are not prepared to go any further if those standards are not reached.

Here is an example of this actually works. Imagine a girl writing this on her About Me section:

“If you cannot make me laugh, then you can make me brownies instead”

It is subtle but makes you want to take on the challenge and see if you can meet her standards…. make sure you can apply the same principles.

Good Photos WILL Help Get To The Next Stage

Try and avoid using selfies. Everyone and their aunts have used selfies on their profile image or any other images you want to display to that girl you are trying to find. Essentially, I would advice investing in a professional taking some nice clean, good quality shots.

Of course I understand that many may consider professional photography is a little overboard, so if you still want to snap that selfie, then make sure the background depicts something interesting that translates something about you, for example, a place you have travelled to. Avoid bedroom wall backdrops… what does that really say about you?

Please, avoid group photos as she does not want to spend her time trying to figure out which one is you. Besides what if she finds your friends more attractive than you? Game over!


Backing The Art Of Seduction With Science

For most of us, we try and better our dating game.

When we fail, we end up going online and looking at dozens of websites that fall on the first page of Google for advice. We naturally assume this advice must be good, however, do we really know how good this information really is?


For the first time ever, I came across a website called WayTooSocial that offers information on science backed dating advice, discussing things from the importance of making girls smile all the way to developing a long term relationship.

So let us take a look at some of this science backed advice:

How To Tell If A Smile Is Genuine

Smiling is contagious, and by smiling at her she will automatically smile back. The idea here is to make her feel good as studies show that by simply smiling you start to feel good… however, the trick here is to spot a genuine smile and make sure she is not smiling back just because she feels sorry for you.

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Spotting a genuine smile

Importance Of Sensitivity & Honesty

Starting off any relationship with dishonesty and cockiness is a recipe for failure. It may work to start off with, however, it is only a matter of time when they realize you have been living a lie.
A partner desire study by Taylor & Francis show that “honesty & trustworthiness” & “sensitivity” are the most desired characteristic in married women.

Breaking Up & How To Move On

When we break up with someone we feel guilty for trying to move on too soon, we naturally try and think of that person because we care about them so much.
This very much becomes a battle between you as a person and your inner feelings and it is only a matter of time before you realize you as an individual are more important than the feelings you poses.

A survey done by the Breakup App shows that the average painfulness of a breakup is very high regardless of what age you are. This shows that the majority of people of different age groups feel high levels of pain during breakups… showing that we all need to learn how to move on for a better future, regardless of how painful it is

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Pain factor after breakups for different age groups

What Would I Tell Myself If I Could Go 10 Years Into The Past

waytoosocial orange 600px 300x100 What Would I Tell Myself If I Could Go 10 Years Into The PastI’m really excited to announce the re-opening of one of our sister sites, WayTooSocial. It’s our chance to jump into the more modern dating world, to get an active engagement from the community and to widen our reach in order to help more people. The first piece of content to be published on the newly redesigned site touches the theme of dating advice and explores what I would tell my 20 year old self if I could go back in time.

The question asks itself… how would that affect my life? Would I ignore the advice or follow it religiously? At the end of the day, the only useful advice is the one that you apply in your life. If you’re interested (and you should be, it’s damned good!) then read it here: http://www.waytoosocial.com/sociallifestyle/things-i-would-have-wanted-to-tell-my-20-year-old-self/ and make sure to let us know what you think in the comments!

Mega List Of The Top 100 Things That Attract Women

Physical height? Strength? Power? Money? What really attracts women to men? Well there’s a hell of a list over on WayTooSocial about the Top Things That Attract Women.

And of course, there are a hundred points so there are contradictions but every point has it’s value.

You know that attraction is really something that we don’t control. Imagine this, a beautiful girl walks into the room… and you aren’t allowed to be attract to her. Does that work? Can you force yourself not to feel any attraction?

You might be able to resist talking to her… hey, you can even forcefully ignore her. One thing is sure though, we are wired to feel biological responses whenever we see attractive members of the opposite sex. Don’t fight it, it’s biology!

Here’s how you can use biology to your advantage, by reading that list!

Curious? Check it out after the jump.

How To Get A Girlfriend

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As a dating coach, pretty much everywhere I go there are guys that are wondering how to get a girlfriend to embellish their lives. They want love, attraction, lust,  someone to watch movies with and of course,  someone to make love to. Unfortunately, the guys that say they need a girlfriend … well, most of the time, they are also the least likely guys to get one.

What Attracts Women

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You can imagine a typical scenario where guys, huddled around a table, are discussing what attracts women. They’ll usually point out that power, money and looks are the key factors in attracting females. Although those factors might help, they certainly aren’t the only things and definitely not the most powerful ones. We’ll explore how women work and what really triggers attraction.

Cocky And Funny

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Cocky and funny is a concept that was originally introduced by David DeAngelo in one of his books, Double Your Dating. David noticed through trial and error that one of the most effective ways of sparking attraction early on in an interaction is to say something that is funny with a hint of cockyness. Although this is only one of the many techniques that he teaches, this is probably the most popular one simply because it’s easy and effective to do.

Demonstration Of Higher Value – DHV

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The definition of a demonstration of higher value, more commonly known through the acronym DHV is simply a statement that increases your social status relative to the people around you. Originally introduced by Mystery, Erik Von Markovich, who showed that demonstrating higher value increases your attractiveness. The more you are worth, the more desirable you are. Hhow can you go about demonstrating higher value? Well there are a few ways.

Demonstration of Lower Value – DLV

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The definition of demonstration of lower value, or DLV for short is to do or say something that makes you less valuable in the eyes of the girl that you’re currently pursuing. This can be something that you say, but it is usually the result of a certain behavior. In most cases, the result of DLV is usually less attraction and it can be the cause of break-ups in certain cases. However there is an exception where DLV is actually beneficial and will increase attraction, we’ll cover this exception in this article.