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How To Flirt With Women

First Rule of Flirting: Teasing

Well let’s jump right into the first step of flirting: Teasing. All you need to do is talk to the girl, and tease her about something. Anything. However, make sure she knows you’re teasing her in a good playful way or she might simply be offended. Tease, show interest and then pull back. Let her tease you and vice-versa.

It’s really that simple. The idea is to not take women so seriously, and instead treat them as if they were your annoying best friend. You really love them but you can’t help but laugh a little when they do something silly. If you want more examples, then simply imagine children playing in a playground. They are professional teasers, usually running around and laughing. That’s what you want, but in a more adult fashion.

Second Rule: Read between the lines

The second key to flirting is to read between the line when speaking with a woman. You should be hinting interest and having her reciprocate without actually saying it. The bulk of flirting is tonality and body language and the best way to learn it is to simply observe guys that are really good at it. A few movie recommendations that immediately come to mind are Top Gun and James Bond movies, watch and observe how they’ll tease women with a slightly serious tone while exuding an attractive body language.

When you’re flirting, any interest that you demonstrate should be subtle! If at any point you cross the subtle line and enter the completely obvious area, you’ll lose the game. Instead, imagine you’re playing a game with her called: “I won’t tell you I’m interested in you until you tell me first” and try to get her to confess her interest first. If you adopt that mentality and practice, you’ll be teaching others how to flirt with girls in no time.

If you’re a guy and you don’t know how to flirt properly and effectively with women, then you’re seriously missing out on some of the joys that life has to offer. Flirting, the act of teasing and hinting interest in a person and having them reciprocate. It’s fun, easy and provides pretty good results if your objective is to attract women to you. So let’s get started.

A lesson from women in flirting
If you’ve looked around in our stereotypical world, you’ll notice that women tend to be naturally good at this and often get the nickname of “Flirts”. As guys we can learn a bit from them. Now I don’t want you acting like a girl, nor dressing like a girl… but if you pay attention, you’ll notice that the women that are great at flirting do have a certain appearance that is flirty. This includes bright colors, mini-skirts, blouses, energetic clothes that say: “Look at me”.

Now I know what you’re thinking… “Ok, I should wear bright colors and dress a bit more like a girl” …. NO, you shouldn’t! Anyone wearing a mini-skirt without the proper equipment better be in an Gaelic parade.
What you want to have clothes that attract attention while still making you look like a man. How? Well, for starters, get nice clothes. If you shop at Wall-Mart for your clothes, you’re only making it harder for yourself. Instead, go for some designer clothes. Having subtle yet fancy designs on your clothes will attract attention and so will having clean brand new shoes. My friend at Kinowear will help you figure out how to look in order to attract women. Just don’t get carried away with the more feminine looks… he likes to go overboard.

(Taken from Kinowear.com LookBook7)
Alright, so assuming you have the attire, now what?

First Rule of Flirting: Teasing
Well let’s jump right into the first step of flirting: Teasing. All you need to do is talk to the girl, and tease her about something. Anything. However, make sure she knows you’re teasing her in a good playful way or she might simply be offended. Tease, show interest and then pull back. Let her tease you and vice-versa.
It’s really that simple. The idea is to not take women so seriously, and instead treat them as if they were your annoying best friend. You really love them but you can’t help but laugh a little when they do something silly. If you want more examples, then simply imagine children playing in a playground. They are professional teasers, usually running around and laughing. That’s what you want, but in a more adult fashion.
Second Rule: Read between the lines
The second key to flirting is to read between the line when speaking with a woman. You should be hinting interest and having her reciprocate without actually saying it. The bulk of flirting is tonality and body language and the best way to learn it is to simply observe guys that are really good at it. A few movie recommendations that immediately come to mind are Top Gun and James Bond movies, watch and observe how they’ll tease women with a slightly serious tone while exuding an attractive body language.
When you’re flirting, any interest that you demonstrate should be subtle! If at any point you cross the subtle line and enter the completely obvious area, you’ll lose the game. Instead, imagine you’re playing a game with her called: “I won’t tell you I’m interested in you until you tell me first” and try to get her to confess her interest first. If you adopt that mentality and practice, you’ll be teaching others how to flirt with girls in no time.
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2 Responses

April 5, 2009
Mike

Yeah, it’s true that you need to read between with the lines when you’re flirting with women. Good tips


June 23, 2009
Mr.Zero

I agree with this. Now I just need to execute. (Sigh….) Easier said then done.