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Complimenting Women

The Basic Human Needs

Instead, realize that humans have 5 emotional needs that need to be met in order to establish a deep rapport.

  1. ATTENTION – We all need a little attention, and acknowledgment that we exist.
  2. UNDERSTANDING – Even though it’s nice to know that others know we exist, we like having the feeling that others have an idea of how we feel about the world around us.
  3. ACCEPTANCE – This means showing the person you value being with them,in spite of their behaviors and attitudes that might not be praiseworthy.
  4. APPRECIATION – We like our good and redeeming qualities to be genuinely recognized.
  5. AFFECTION – Reassurance that, in spite of comparisons with others, we’re still special.

If you decide to compliment on something that EVERYONE else compliments on then at the very worst it will sound fake and in the best case scenario you still haven’t done anything special to differentiate yourself from the other guys.

If a girl tells me “Hey, you’re really smart”, I think to myself… “Ok, so what? Everyone tells me that”. Instead, if it’s a compliment that I never hear, it will get my attention and make me want some more. So if you’re going to compliment women, find something that people don’t normally compliment on.

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March 17, 2009

It’s really hard to find the balance between complimenting and negs. I like to bounce back and forth between them and I find that women react really well to that.

Took me a while, once I insulted a girl that I really liked… never recovered from that one. Gotta lose some to learn!

March 17, 2009

Don’t ever insult a girl, she’ll remember long after even if you’re successful with her!
Instead, imagine you’ve known her for a long time and tease her