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Learn How To Pick Up Girls

The Mindset for Picking up a Girl

This is one of the most overlooked and yet important aspects of pickup in general: When you approach girls, YOU must be the one choosing her. The first time you’re going to be chatting with a woman, she’ll already know that you’re trying to pick her up. There are probably many guys that have already tried (maybe even today) and many more will after you’re done. What’s going to make you different is that instead of trying to get her to like you, you’re going to see if you like her instead.

There’s a huge difference between the two.

On one hand, you’re supplicating to her, trying to impress her and putting her up on a pedestal. On the other hand, when you’re choosing her, you’re actually there to find out if you like her or not. That’s why it’s very important to know what you want in a girl before you go out and pick up women. When you know what you want in a girl, you’ll be actively seeking it and therefore women that are pretty but have no personality won’t impress you as much.

Instead, when you know exactly what you want in a woman, you can go into a situation and figure out if she’s a good match for you. When you walk in with that attitude, you never run out of things to say. So my suggestion is to make a list of your ideal girl. Figure out not only how she looks, but how she acts as well. Then once you have this ideal girl in your head, go out and find her.

That’s what pick up should really be about, finding your perfect girl.

Closing Notes About Picking Up Women

When you’re out with women, just have a good time. In the end, isn’t that what it’s all about? If there’s one thing that I’ve noticed, it’s that if you’re having the time of your life,  then they are likely to have a great time as well. Happiness is contagious! Notice that all the guys that are good with women are usually very charismatic, happy individuals. So go out and be that person, don’t think about how to pick up girls and women will love you for it.

Table of Content

Page 1 Picking Up Girls

Page 2 Fastest Way To Pickup

Page 3 The Mindset
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9 Responses

March 17, 2009

I really liked this advice, be detached from the outcome!
I just have to keep this in mind

March 17, 2009

Good run down of the different openers a guy should do. I think it’s interesting the way you want them to simply go up and open even though they aren’t prepared for it.

It’s kind of like pushing someone in the water when they don’t know how to swim. It works, but it’s scary as hell !

March 17, 2009

Good advice, solid. I’ll be trying those out tonight when I’m picking up (or trying to) at the club!

April 3, 2009

Glad to be able to help !

April 5, 2009

Good article on picking up girls, I just finished reading approach tips and they really compliment each other well.

July 13, 2009
Conrad Dixon

Great little article, love the chart… it’s the pick-up pie.

most important is definitely getting out there and approaching women… like over 90% of guys just don’t do it… no wonder you feel anxious about finding a girlfriend when you don’t approach.



January 17, 2010

Great article man.
i love how you emphasize being outcome independent. I think having a strong inner game and not being too worried about the outcome are huge factors for your success

August 8, 2010

Hey chris, first of all congratulations for this site, it’s great! But I agree with “chicksareforme” in this point:
It’s unimaginabely scary just to walk over to a woman and say “Hello, I saw you and I just wanted to say “Hi” “, when you have never done it yet.
Isn’t that a bit too hard?

September 2, 2010
Matthew Morrow

Great advice man im going to have to try it sometime. I just need to stop being scared